Today I'm not going to motivate you today. Because motivation is a feeling — and feelings come and go. What I want to give you instead is something that actually lasts. . . . I want to give you a reason to keep going even when you don't feel like it.
Over the last 4 episodes, I gave you four habits. And if you're someone like me — you probably felt fired up when you heard them. Maybe you tried one or two. And then life happened. And the habits slipped.
And you told yourself you'd get back to it. That is not failure. That is exactly what this episode is about.
Here is what nobody tells you about building new habits:
the first obstacle isn't laziness. It's identity. When you try to do the hard thing first — part of you resists. Because the version of you that existed before these habits has self trained herself. And your brain, which runs on patterns, will fight the new pattern until it becomes the default.
When you sit in silence for ten minutes — it feels pointless at first. Uncomfortable. A waste of time. That discomfort is not a sign it's not working. It's a sign your nervous system is being asked to do something it's never done. . . .When failure hits — and it hits everyone, no exception — the old version of you will show up first. You're going to have to choose, consciously, every time, to replace it with the new one.
This is the part most of us quit. Not because the habits don't work. But because change feels wrong before it feels right. And most people interpret this as a sign to stop.
Do not stop. That discomfort is the building towards A Habit, A Routine.
How about, you build one routine task and make it into a everyday habit. I am so sure Nothing is Impossible, One Routine One Habit At A Time.
